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The Ultimate Guide to Making Your Nanny's First Day a Success

Bringing a new nanny into your home to care for your children is an exciting yet anxiety-provoking time. You want to ensure your nanny's first day goes as smoothly as possible so they feel comfortable and prepared to take excellent care of your kids. The key to nanny first-day success is being organized, communicative, and thoughtful in your preparations and activities.

In this comprehensive guide, we will walk you through everything you need to do leading up to and during your nanny's critical first day. Follow these tips, and you’ll be setting your whole working relationship up for happiness and success.

Key Takeaways

  • Prepare the household and set expectations by discussing schedules, responsibilities, boundaries, safety procedures, and more.
  • Tour the nanny around the home and neighborhood to familiarize them with the environment.
  • Establish open communication and gauge chemistry by building a good working relationship.
  • Set house rules and daily routine so the nanny understands the children’s schedule.
  • Provide helpful first-day feedback to get the relationship off to a productive start.
  • Provide emergency contact information, pediatrician advice, and other important details like allergies.

Preparation for the Nanny's First Day

The preparation you do leading up to your nanny's first day will set the tone for your entire working relationship. From the initial conversations to making the house nanny-ready, use the weeks and days beforehand to get organized and establish expectations.

Expectations and Preparations

In the weeks before your nanny's start date, focus conversations on pragmatically preparing for their first day on the job. Discuss expectations in terms of schedule, responsibilities in caring for your kids, and any particular rules or procedures in your family. Answer any initial questions or concerns your nanny has so you’re both on the same page. Prepare forms, paperwork, and any employee manuals ahead of time for a seamless onboarding process.

Designate a workspace or room for your nanny to utilize on the job. Stock up on any needed supplies, create cubbies or folders for the kids, and childproof as necessary. Think through safety procedures from a fresh perspective and make adjustments to ensure your nanny has all the tools and knowledge to properly respond to emergencies.

For the first few days, if the nanny is late for a few minutes, it is important to overlook it as it is a new routine for a nanny to adjust to. The same goes for a caregiver or a babysitter.

Introducing the Nanny to the Household

Arrange for your nanny to meet all family members early on, including both parents, kids, and any other household staff. Brief kids on the new nanny's name, role, and start date to get them excited. Tell other personnel, such as house cleaners or dog walkers, when they can expect to interact with the new nanny.

Give your nanny an initial tour of the home to become oriented. Show them spaces the kids frequently occupy, safety equipment locations, their designated work zone, kitchen and meal areas, dishwasher, bathrooms, cleaning supplies, etc. Walk through getting in and out of the home including alarm systems, locks, garage access, and spare keys. Give them ample time to ask questions or take notes on your home's layout and systems.

Reviewing Work Schedule and Responsibilities

Before the first day, clearly establish the anticipated weekly or daily work schedule you expect from your nanny, including start and end times plus any flexibility required. Provide an overview of their primary duties and responsibilities in caring for your children. Include details like meal prep, driving to activities, homework help, bedtime routines, and more.

Create a written document, shared digitally, that states clear expectations for cleaning up, child supervision protocols, screen time rules, snack policies, friends visiting, etc. Go over their role managing appointments, organizing activities, handling discipline, and communicating with you and your partner. Confirm required tasks or prohibited activities according to your family's customs.

Nanny's First Day Activities

You've finished all the preparation for a stellar first day - now it's time to put your plans into action! Stay engaged as your nanny gets acquainted with you, your kids, and the daily routine through welcoming relationship-building, thoughtful home tours, and clear communication of how your household runs.

Building a Relationship with the Nanny

Kick off your nanny's first working day focused on relationship building, not just rule sharing. Warmly greet them to help ease any initial nerves. Introduce them to excited kids and chat together over breakfast or coffee before diving into logistics. Share some personal background stories to cultivate chemistry through vulnerability, then have your nanny do the same.

Ask thoughtful questions to show your care for them professionally and personally, not just as an employee. Share some family photos to highlight cherished memories. Check in on their energy levels and see if any immediate nanny needs come up that you can assist with. Let them directly engage with kids through play or conversation as you observe a natural connection developing.

Tour of the House and Community

Even if your nanny knows your home or neighborhood, dedicate time on their first day to reorient them from a childcare perspective. Walk them through the house again, room-by-room, while kids are present, highlighting safety concerns, organizational systems for toys or supplies, and areas that are currently childproofed or should be updated.

Drive or stroll together around your community, pointing out essential locations such as schools, friends' houses, parks, pools, playgrounds, and go-to restaurants.

Show them walking routes or shortcuts you take with the kids. Note boundary limits, housework, dangerous intersections, community gate codes, and permitted playing areas. Encourage them to take photos or map out locations during the tour if helpful.

Discussing House Rules and Routine

Clearly orient your nanny on the first day to your family's house rules and the typical weekly routine with your kids. Verbally explain and then provide written documentation detailing regular schedules for meals, naps, school pickup, activities, learning time, playtime, and household tasks. Note any flexibilities or exceptions in the routines for example, some family members may visit on a certain day of the week or at a certain time.

Specify family rules around issues like controversial TV shows, treats, messy art or crafts, having friends over, doing dangerous activities, leaving the house, answering your phone or door, taking pictures of kids, engaging on social media, handling disputes with you or your partner, seeking medical care, and when to disturb you while working from home or resting. Encourage your nanny to take notes and ask clarifying questions.

Review of the First Day and Feedback

At the end of the first day, check back in with your nanny both verbally and through a simple written evaluation form. Ask what aspects of the day went well or were most enjoyable in building connections with you and the kids. Inquire about any pressing challenges, surprises, or discomforts experienced while settling into this new role and environment.

Provide supportive, constructive feedback on specific interactions you observed or heard about from your kids. Share verbal appreciation for things your nanny did well like engaging warmly, following house rules or emergency protocols, communicating with you effectively, etc.

Offer suggestions for improvements based on misalignments noticed between discussed expectations and actual behaviors or approaches exhibited. Your nanny may want to share some feedback, so listen to them carefully. The best approach is to have consistent feedback meetings after some time interval to check on the improvements.


Welcoming a new nanny into your home to care for your precious children comes with exhilaration and anxiety. You want their first day's experience to exemplify the supportive, nurturing working relationship you hope will develop.

Thoughtful preparation, engaged communication, and relationship building from day one will set you all up for happiness and success as you move forward. Even if the first day didn't go as expected, you can keep trying, a first bad/regular experience doesn't mean it'll always be like that.

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