2020-12-25

As different parenting practices evolve, parents constantly search for ways to bring up their kids under the best conditions. The primary need of every child is good parenting, and parents need to understand how to meet up in this regard.

Good parenting requires consistency, determination, and the effort of a parent to control, and direct their kids appropriately. Parents should think about the age and phase of their kids while structuring parenting styles so that there is a match between the parenting practice and what the kid needs.

A parent has to provide kids with the necessary foundation to build healthy personal and social behavior, and they do this through good parenting. 
Good parenting comes with the growth mindset, understanding that a child's knowledge is not fixed, but continually grows and develops. Parents should put strategies around a child's ability to grow and prosper, and not restrict their abilities.

A good parenting practice is one that thrives on support, participation, and consequence for action. For example, parents should teach kids to handle house chores and contribute at home without being paid. This practice will help kids understand the concept of giving. 

Research shows that the authoritative style of parenting is the best, as it balances between firmness and nurturing. It combines warmth, sensitivity, and the creation of boundaries or limits. The results of upholding this style are found in a child's emotional wellness, academic achievement, and general wellbeing.

The best family is a democratic one that doesn't run on threats or force. The parents are role models for the kids, and they must make a decent job of it. 

Here are some guidelines to become a good parent to your kids.

1. Balance Work and Home Life
While parents need to work so that they can cater to the needs of their kids, some get too occupied and don't spend time with their kids.
As a good parent, you need to balance your work and attention for your kids so that you have time to guide and raise them while catering to all their needs, financial or otherwise.

2. Remember that Your Kids have Opinions
Most times, parents unknowingly impose their opinions, wants, needs, and desires on their kids because they think it is best.
However, you shouldn't forget that children also have their wants, desires, and opinions. 

A good parent should guide their children in a democratic setting, being open-minded about their kids' wants and needs, and supporting them.

3. Give Kids the space to learn
Even in learning, some parents tend to take over from their kids and prevent them from learning. Parents direct their kids, telling them what to do with their school work and studies, without giving them the room to learn and understand.
Parents have to guide and direct their kids when learning, but not overpower and dictate to them.

4. Don't set schedules for your kids without their input
Don't dictate what activity your child should do with his/her time without asking first what they think about it. A schedule that doesn't interest a child will be frustrating and not fun.
Instead, put a list of activities together, ask your kids which one they will like to attend, get their reason and insights before making the final decision.
Such a process will help your children feel involved, and also teach them how to manage their time and activities.

5. Understand that times have changed 
Some parents are stuck in the past and want to do things the way we did decades ago. However, times have changed, and parents should adapt to the new age and time. 
Some parenting methods, discipline, and upbringing do not apply to millennial and generation Z. If you fail to adapt and adjust, you will continue to have issues and doubts as to whether or not you are a good parent.
The way out of such a situation is to learn new ways to train your child that is in tune with new realities.

6. Manage any Bilingual Disparity
If you have a bilingual family where you are living with your kids outside your native country, they are growing in a different cultural environment from you. Take note of some language and cultural barriers, and work hard to bridge the gaps.
 Teach your children to understand your language and cultural heritage so that they can grow up respecting it. Also, stay in touch with the culture in the country where you are raising them, and speak their language so that you can communicate smoothly.

Conclusion
Although a parent's job is to support and guide their child through growth and development, as kids grow, parents need to first understand the perfect training models before impacting their kids. Good parents will inspire their kids and teach them the best way to take responsibility for their journey.